You will not believe that i had actually forgotten the link to this account and the password. Actually the truth is i had a program that never allowed me to go on blogspot or wordpress and guess what it just stopped working.
You all know the saying "Men are from VI, Women are from Ketu"..It had a better ring to it than Juipter or Venus or wherever your species originated from....Well the aim( which is why i started the blog in the first place) is to bridge the gap from VI all the way to Ketu.
From interacting with different Girls/Women (mama tin-tin incl) i have noticed that there are some few requirements that women want from us, but today i am going to address a few
Girl Lingo - When you ask a girl a certain question, the response always differs depending on the period of dating your in, For example a simple question such as:-
How many guys have you slept with? If your just getting to know each other , the answer is 3. But what she means is that 3 is a safe number, this way i wont look like i am always too deep and guys run away from me and i am now where close to being tagged as a slut. But if she is drunk 3, turns into 5 and 1 year into the relationship, 5 becomes 8. See how a simple answer went from 3 to 8.(It doesnt stop there o!) one day she is walks into your house only to see one of your friends with you. This friend just happens to be one of the guys, she never told you she slept with but she did and she know wants to quickly tell you before everything gets awkward and someone else tell you. 8 has now become 11.
Interaction without consent - Why is it that sometimes when happiness comes from somewhere else girls, are not too impressed. If i should get a text from a girl and i should start smiling or laugh while reading it and wifey/ current girl (pick which one suits you) should get a glimpse of this, watch out for the following signs of danger. Firstly she will keep quiet and become reserved, she will squeeze her face till you notice something is wrong by force. After she has pounded you with 15 responses of "Nothing is wrong", she will gently ask who was that one the phone. You have a couple of routes you can take at this point.
A)Nothing, it was just one of my friends, it's nothing important.
B)Dont worry.
C)You tell her everything. Who the sender was( and it better not be ur ex), the model of their phone, their network and the full intention of the message they sent and also why you were required to smile.
I would go with "C" but if you go with either "A" or "B", then be ready for an all out full blown investigation, your facebook, email, phone records. One thing i have learnt though is that the average nija babe will make a very good private investigator, some of them after they have analyzed that stain and perfume on your shirt can even join the CSI forensics.
There are usually quick and nonchalant ways to dismiss this kind of behaviors amongst women, but as i have learnt in a relationship "She who controls the sex, controls all". This is a golden rule but only applies to 5% of relationships i.e. The non-cheating ones.
Next time we will try and go through some of the topics, or i might add on the one's previously discussed.
1) Princess syndrome
2) Telekinesis
3) I am a girl
4)Control
Here are few phrases that i would like to leave you with, please feel free to agree or disagree with them.
a) The only thing worse than a man you can't control is a man you can.
b) It is the woman who chooses the man who will choose her.
c) When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
Relationships are a balance of games, deception and trust. People have emailed me and asked" what my secret is?" Usually i dont reveal such but here it is: As a Man "I WEAR THE TROUSERS IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND THAT IS FINAL!!! but she tells me which trousers to wear!"
Firstly i dont like you guys anymore...... espcially you guys( the one's that know but are pretending they dont know me, although you know that i know , that you know who i am)
So here are the new rules...
1) We are going semi-private - this means in order to have my life intact, this blog will only be open to blog authors, after a while it will then go full private
2)I know have a ghost writer aka my secretary
3) Just to make things a bit more interesting, we have also opened a second blog, where it is...you just have to find out. That one will still be open to everyone to read and comment
4)We are going back to the begining and when i mean begining i am refering to the style of the first post.
5) First post will be on monday, as in next week..it might even be the first one with pictures( dont hold your breathe)
p.s. Shame on all of you, not one nomination, when i spent the whole of my first season shouting about blog awards, now i have seen the true colours of blogsville, it is just because i missed you guys that is why i came back from wordpress, the people there were soo much nicer...lol!!
2nd season, will start off with the nigeria chronicles!
*****update******
Please bear with me, i am nursing a very very serious hangover/alcohol poisoning episode...
will update 2moro...
Firstly in regards to the last post....i didnt mean to or rather i wasnt trying to justify or even explain why men cheat, it was meant to be slightly biased. But i wanted to show somethings that happen when men are in that situation, i am by no means glorifying it or saying it is right. I just put it out there.. Secondly the title was the wrong title, as i said i am working back to front on the whole men cheat thing, so hopefiully if you cannnot find sympathy, not that you should, you can at least understand and find a better way to deal with some issues when it comes to cheating, lying men (not like me- that is to you annonymous). P.s. annon, you were the first, i am proud of you...Now onto some very random topic. Usually i dont do church and christianity on this blog but i just want to throw something out there..
So i had sorta been putting off blogging till i got the perfect post to bring me back, but i woke up this morning in tears, well i never really slept. It's like every emotional fight, pain, suffering that ever occured from a relationship. Juts came back to me at once and i was/ am overwhelmed.. Looking back over the last 4 years i have done nonesense and i mean with other peoples feelings.. I would apologise but i doubt my apologies will suffice now.
Why do men cheat?. There are the normal answers of lust, greed, temptation.( all 3 are the same thing to be honest) but it's not the lust or greed. You should look at, but the underlying factors, because something tells me that not a men are the same. The reason for me postponing this post for soo long was that i felt that until you can talk from experience you can only imagine what drives a man to cheat.. No i didnt go out and cheat, neither did it come to me and cheat. I just paid more attention and spoke with some people.
Firstly what happens when men cheat??. They get trapped and priorities change. This depends if the cheatee( politically correct term- other woman) knows that the man has a _______(wife/ girlfriend/ fiance). She firstly evaluates how much you love your other half, she tells by:- if you answer the phone calls in front of her, what you say, your body language. One of 2 things can or will happen. Firstly the man( cheater) ends it with his other woman as wifey has become more suspect of his recent activites and the other woman threatens to go to wifey so he sorta confesses first. Secondly the other woman does nothing. In the first scenario the relationship seems over as he has now confessed, every normal woman will kick him out, make him sleep on the sofa. Guess who is now there for him, when u have turned your back on him, yep..the other woman. In the second scenario she lets him live his life as he wants no restraints that come from wifey. In both scenarios the guys become extremely comfortable and slowly wifey is treated as or in essence emotionally becomes the other woman. Because where ever a man is happy is where his priorities are.
The only 2 instance when these 2 situation above might not occur, is if the other woman tries to force the man to leave his wife/ girlfriend. Now what a man doesnt want is to girlfriends[1]. He doesnt want to jump from one sinking boat to the other, he wants a speed boat. This is the only situation when the man will put things into perspective and make the decision to go back home on his own, although it will not be easy but he will make the right choice.
NB. For the other woman reading this, just do your thing, dont put too much pressure. If he is going to stay, you have to be more of his friend and be there for him, because the way he perceives you will affect his judgement when making that make it or break it choice and dont worry he will be the one to ask you when he wants to be a bit serious. But if you want to test his loyalty, have something with someone else and you can judge how much he likes you from the amount of venom and anger he throws towards you...
From me to you,
Tininu..xxx
Thank you for those who were checking up on me through my illness and hard times...
p.s. this is not the end of why men cheat, i am sorta working back to front on this one..will be a thing that comes every forthnight but i will still continue to blog regularly in between..
jack slater said...
1. Who are you? I am tininu.. i thought you would have worked that out by now
2. Who is Vindi? She is vindi, out of everyone you should know, right?!!? - ignore what you see in the comments the truth is that i dont know who she is.
bunmmy said...
hmm guess am late in the Q&A, anyways i have a request can you post your pix so i can see ur face? I would soo love to do that , but that is like requesting death by firing squad.
naijababe said....
so ermm whats the worst think you've ever done to anyone?? Emm when i was 7 i had a family friend that lived with us till i was about 15 and i made him use soap (lux the yellow one if u must know) to brush his teeth..
Anonymous said...
are you dark skinned or light skinned? Dark skinned
Are u buff or skinny? ur not leaving me with many options..i am normal...packs yes, muscles yes but not too the point that i cant wear a medium shirt without looking like barbie
efjay said...
LOL! that was a very fun read! Lmao @ going to pink and ruffles. since u got there towards the end did u catch any of the performances?
Hw r u? and hw's the girlfriend?
i did oo...it was nice, although they had one to many glitches...She is fine, very fine. Me on the other hand not soo well. i have had to resort to a bit of a drink once in a while and sleeping tabs to keep up with everyday activities.
efjay said...
Btw, what uni do you go to? What r u studying? unfortunately if you read the post one chance, when i set out the rules for asking me questions, i said i would not answer 4 questions..these 2 are part of the 4 i cannot answer, because they are the biggest give aways...i'm sorry!!
anonymous said...
16/17 on the sex question? 9ja secondary school? it was 16 and i am sorry as per above i cannot answer that question.
vindication through innocence said...
Seeing as we have no limit to the number of questions we can answer you...
1) Where and how do you come up with these (often very correct theories on gender 'issues' and relationships?
A lot of times they just pop into my head when i am arguing with girls but the most intresting ones are when i am having lunch or dinner with the girlfriend...She was even saying she was gonna do a post about 10 things she hates about me...so that you guys can really see what i am like.
2) If there was one thing you could not live without, what would it be? Popcorn!
3) How did you know what chop chop or roly poly or whatever it is you call it meant?? I was thinkin it had to do with slippers or toes or something...innocent mind eh? i just did, british public schoool boys, we have that kind of sick mentality..i blame the educational system.
4) Do you have a genuine obsession with gari?? if so, when did it start? lol....garri or garium II sulphate as it is often refered to in my house( blame momsi for that name), i dont have an obsession with but i know what concentration to use when i am supplementing it with the following compounds...suya, moin-moin, akara and mama put rice and stew with 120 naira meat.
5) Do you think you have a good set of friends that have your best interest at heart (random, I know! but i wouldnt have it any other way)? My friends vary, the same set i will go out with on monday are not the same i will go out with on tuesday...i am lucky in that respects because some time i need that change of scenery so i can jump from nija, to oyinbo to really posh oyinbo and back again as i please.. but the oyinbo one's yeah have my best intrest at heart and a few of the nigerian one's do as well.
6) 16/17 when you rode the national express?hmmm- I doubt it was the housegirl cos thats more a KC boy trait (im not hating- its TRUE) but just thought id ask...I dont want details...Im not a perv.... it was 16...you know these oyinbo girls, i am black and was in high demand, actually i sorta still am...lol. that was a joke before annoymous comes and makes me feel like less of a man..
7) If you had the choice to detach yourself fro the certian people in your life, how many people would you detach yourself f4rom??
I will not ask for names cos that is like asking for trouble!..out of all my current friends and people i associate with probably only 2 or 3 and they are al girls, what a shame.
8) Are you on track in terms of what you wanted to achieve at your age(20- 23?) i am far beyond my expectations but there are some areas lacking, areas such as i what i deemed to be necessary that i have not accomplished or dominated.
only two more to go....
9)If you had a choice between Mos def and common- who would you pick (for music not acting)? common!!
10) Are you still vexting? I already revealed my Identity!? i was never vexing and i still dont know your identity...sorry i hvnt replied, time has gone completely over my head.
14 September 2008 23:26
bumight said...
1. have u ever cheated in a relationship? what kind of question is that, lol!!..it depends on what u call cheating, if looking at another girl and mentally undressing her then yeah i have cheated repeatedly
2. what is the strangest sex position u've ever done(karma baby!).. i personally dont think they have a name for it yet...i am very physical, strength and staying power, so i often get to improvise and come up with what best suits me but i dont even think it was the position it self the location had something to do with it
3. what is ur weak point when it comes to girls? i mean what u "trip" for in girls or what a girl can do to make u go wow!.. i would love to give it away but if i told you here then every girl could come up to me and do that and i would crumble, literally. but i love dimples though!! *sigh** dimples.
Last but not least.....
must ask- is minky your girlfriend- she seems like a match for you... and a bloody character??
i am asking myself why i even put this up, because this is going to send me like 2 months backwards with wifey but NOOOOOOOOOOO MINKY IS NOT MY GIRLFRIEND...i have not even seen her. infact i have only seen on blogger, actually 2 and those 2 are my friends anyways so i have always known them. how is she a match for me..oya minky stop smiling!
Kay i see you have stolen this topic already...i hate you!!!! yes i am saying it again...lol...but okay i am looking at it on an everyday aspect, forget the sexual tension at work in the changing rooms or where ever..