The Adventure continues..

Note- Closure does not apply to Qc girls , because those girls are everywhere and it is like they have this virus that does not allow them to keep their mouth shut or mind their own business...infact i think i only have 2 friends from Qc, that is how bad it is..infact i am sure the one that called me a ho sef is a Qc girl..Now bear in mind this is my own blog, i can write what i like and if you are a Qc babe and dont like what i am saying, close your web browser and go and find a job....Moving on

In relationships there always seems to be the whole he-said, she-said thing that occurs and from experience it never helps. From the onset it is essential that there is some sort of closure..

This example is mainly for the guys: If you have just started a relationship with a girl and in the case of this example you slept with her within the same month or week. There is no need to rush and tell your guys, if they dont ask you then there is no need to tell. If they do then hold them off for like a month  before you tell them, let things between you and the girl settle down. Because all it takes is for one of your guys to remix the story to" Can u imagine the babe was giving him head" and her friend hears and tells her..She will then come to you and round 1 begins." i cant believe you told your friends, i gave you head", you know how the rest goes. 

Guys please this one is very important. If anything in the long run, this will save you..trust me on this one( speaking from experience)

This one is for both guys and girls:- Be able to differeciate between your friends and be able to categorise them. You need to know the one that remixes the stories, the one that mistakenly tells their own friend harmlessly and the one that broadcast the stories to your enemies and more importantly do the same thing for your babe/ guys friends. Categorising them can be very hard, infact the only way i was able to do it was by spreading false gist, i spread 3 different versions, i knew who i had told what and which one spread the most. I am not saying you have to go that extreme but when you want to weed out your friends and discard those that are not helping you in anyway then, often you have to do things that are deep, just like i have done.

Thirdly ensure that your relationship is not a triangle or a square, in english it isnt one of those my friend  and i are dating my boyfriend and his friend(The sqaure)or

As a guy your going out with the babe but there is always her friend and it seems like your going out with 2 people but your not(The triangle). Avoid this at all costs, as in this is a NO GO!!! Under no circumstances, even in marriages, these kind of friendships end up being detrimental.

 In the case of the square, when the 2nd couple are fighting, more or less you guys are fighting because you will be dragged into it by your babe.

In the case of the triangle, when you want to go somewhere like take your girlfriend on a spontaneous gateaway and she is saying no because her friend will be bored and something similar and this happens on more than one occasion, please start drafting new a plan to get a new girlfriend.

Once the things above have been done properly, when you guys actually argue for whatever reason, the damage will be limited and controlled which will give you guys the time and space to work out your problems and heal, if your still going to be together. But the time you start involving your friends, you will slowly be manipulated and will not want to look weak infront of your friends and migth necessarily do what is best for you. 

One last thing if your arguing, {this should be common sense after everything i have said.} Do not have a tantrum outside in public, this goes out to the babe. Because if you do( because you want to disgrace guy in public) God help you if this guy has something on you that you dont know about and besides that your madness will just make you look like a madwoman in public...no joke!!! you might be happy with yourself oo but 6 months down the line when you don thave a boyfriend and your looking in the mirror and wondering why. Remember the day you thought you were cool, acting like a mad woman in public and how the gist spread....

Lastly, If your boyfriend is anything like me{ which i know a lot of you will pray against}, then he will turn that attack in public against you there and then, disgrace you and then break up with you......life is a b**ch mehn!!!.

By the way i only do what is done onto me.....

Your only lover boy, 

p.s Annon{es} : please leave me ooo, i begged you in the last post..please oooo!!!

thank you

kiss kiss

I forgot to add this and this was actually the main point ooo

If you guys have closure in your relationship  and eventually break up on a bad note, becuase of the closure you guys had and lack of gist spreading, you guys will be able to sort out whatever resentment that is present and be close again, and might even lead back to a relationship....

Closure does not only apply to relationships but normal friendships or even friends with benefits

And that seems to be why i have a lot of friends that are girls...( there is no direct correlation with the comment about friends with benefits and the comment on the amount of friends that i have..thank you for your understanding.....Tin-tin boy)

What you really need to do, is go that extra mile, do something we have never seen, we never expected from you...Dont ask me because i am not your boyfriend, so i dont know!

I am not talking in terms of getting up on the table and hanging out with the moet and ace of spade boys. 

Doing that just degrades yourself because you tend to come across a gold digger, maybe that is too harsh a word but you get the picture.

but incase you dont know that extra mile was, you can go for the safer option. 

The one when you go with a few of your friends poss not more than 2, so it doesnt look like you just came with loads of girls for emotional and moral support. Obviously a nice figure hugging outfit and the hair and all. Do your normal dancing but not too much. Most improtantly remember to smile.

Smiling constantly is important because it potrays happyness, ur not there sad and gloomy. There is no boyfriend that doesnt like seeing his girlfriend smilling, if is she is his ex, plus he will also be wondering who is the new person making you smile 24/7. If you have a new guy maybe even better but dont hold the new guy like a throphy. Let  him do his thing with his guys(i dont know why this is soo hard for girls), leave yourself open for your ex to come and talk to you, better yet, smile , wave to him, strut over and sit down beside. You can even add a little something something , like a peck on the cheek. 

Ensure you have a very civil conversation.

Avoid dancing not even for old times sake.

okay maybe one dance, because i know you cannot resist, especially when he comes from behind and whispers in your ears and the hairs on the back of your neck stand (see all of you smiling...ashewo's), that is why i said aovid the dance.

Out of the whole night this is the important thing. This can only be done when you have a new guy who is at the club, it will only work if the guy is your boyfriend or your having something and your ex knows that is your current guy.

Through out the duration of talking with your ex, your new guy will be counting minutes, seconds, every smile, every time you touched ur ex..that kinda thing. But at anytime he calls you even if it is in mid conversation with your ex. Go to him immediately. This works best if it is at the end of the club, when the lights are on.

let me let you in on a secret there is nothing like having power and then there is nothing like seeing someone use the power that you used to have but he uses it better than you... when your new guy calls you ( for example, he calls your name and points at his watch to indicate it is time to go). just tell your ex "sorry i have to go" , get your bag get up and meet ur new guy..Have you ever heard the saying the best way to break a guy is from the inside out. This does exactly that. The guy might appear fine but he is gonna be the there saying to himself.

: " see the way she just got up and left in mid-convo"

:" see the way she just obeyed that guy, i dont remember he ever doing that to me"

:"She must like the guy, their relationship must be deep"

:"maybe the have been having something for a while, even when we were going out"

[by the way the above convo takes place after the guy has abused the babe in his mind first for leaving like that]

before you know it the guy might even start asking himself some really daft questions and might even just doubt himself. oh and obviously the fact that you were looking hot, like a lollipop at the back of his mind he probably just wanted to lick you..lol! but he had to front. trust me i guarantee you will on and off his mind for the next 2-3 days. Dont forget his friends, they all saw you as well, they saw both of you talking. If he wanted to forget about you, his friends will bring it up and will make sure your fresh in his mind.

Some of you might not be able to see how this breaks the guy, that is because a lot of you are girls and it is not something you will know, but it has been done to me 2ce by 2 different girls, in 2 different years and both times........it got me ooo, i wont lie.. i was like me, me that i used to go out with you. i might even not treated you right but see the way the guy called. it didnt even just hurt me emotionally, it was my ego it dented and my ego is very small. Trust me.

Now i am also going to apologise for the change in blogging personality, some of you that were around when i started will have notices how i have become less funny and what i blog about has really taken a turn from personal to general. This has been for the obvious reasons of people finding out who i am, which is okay by me to a point i guess. Another reason has been a bit personal( some of you that i talk to know the reasons). 

The last reason is for my own personal safety and looking to the future for marriage:- a lot of people that are my friends, when i am just talking about something that has to do with me, that might be on the blog, because i dont know they read my blog, i keep talking and they realise, which sucks!!!

secondly,  quick question, if you see me in real life considering all that you know from my blog, will you go out or marry me, considering that you know just a few things and there can be a lot of  things that are worse that you dont know.

I also like to say thank you to one of my readers " soft spot" the one that said she thought i was very concieted...i wanna say thank you not the concieted part but you know what i am talking about sha...

oh yeah @ unwritten- muah muah muah.xxxxxxxxxxxx