Okay after my x numbers random of posts, i decided to go back to the girl chronicles!. i am not going to hype it and there is no introduction, i seem to have lost my mojo...
So here is the major problem that leads to most suspicion and finger pointing in relationships, no it's not communication...actually it is!. But there is something else.. Accountability!
Guys - why do we always feel the need keep our babes in the dark? keeping them in the dark about who we talk to, or who calls us. Is not going to stop them from speculating and accusing. The way to get around these things is to tell the truth first and then lie later.
About a week ago, i came under fire from Ms.Irreplaceable (Irr) because my best friend is a girl. The truth is that Ms Irr is not the first person. i have come under fire over and over again but i have told the same story. "Me and her are just friends, i have never kissed her and i will never kiss her. Apart from this once that i almost pecked her. I dont see her in any other way and will not or ever have anything with her." I can sleep on the same bed, i can sit on the phone hours with her" without saying anything", let me elaborate that last point." We can both be watching tv without saying a word". It is not that we're there on the phone just because i want to hear her voice or something of that nature. Eventually every girl believes me, it is the truth.
But i just thought what if everything i said was a lie....
What if i had been having something with coco, all this while and we never told anyone....
No one would know, besides me , coco and you guys reading this right now....
So if you want to deceive your girl( Not that guys should do that), tell her the truth or a just go completely opposite and tell her a lie. The underlining point is that you stick with it, even if they catch you....stick with it. So that when her friend says "i have seen tin-tin with coco and they are very very close"..Ms Irr will reply" i already know, they are friends and at first i was not too happy with their relationship but it's fine".
That way; whenever or how many times the gist goes back to her. She would be comfortable and then the GIST will die down. I know this Naija circle in Jand, they are like lions.
So guys when your girlfriend calls you and your in a babes house.Just say your in the babes house, obviously she will be a bit suspect. But for the sake of accountability say you were there, because if the gist that you were in some other babes house from her friend( you know that amebo one, that never shuts up or minds her business) and you didnt tell her when she said" baby what were you up to today?." Then your hiding something and she will start to speculate and point fingers and the important thing is that "YOUR RUNZ WILL BE MONITORED THEN BLOCKED", and we dont want that do we!!
Girls - You have to understand something, every guy needs output, a stress outlet, so to speak.
1)Some guys sleep.
2)Some play pro evo soccer on xbox or ps3.
3)Some read the newspapers or watch Cnn or talk politics.
4)Some just hang out with the guys.
It is very important to see your guy and find out what his is! because trust me this will increase your bride price in his eyes. Take me for example, mine is sleeping.
No i don't sleep from morning till night. it is just that i like my sleep, because when i am asleep; there are no bills to pay, there is no car to service, there are no exams or test, there are no relationship problems, there is no stress and i dont have to face reality. That is why i sleep. It is my release!. The thing that i can do over and over again that will not be boring, it will never get tiring and i need it.
The worse thing is if you as a babe ruin this moment, that a guy sees sooo precious. he will snap. Have you ever wondered why your guy was angry or moody all of a sudden? when earlier in the day he was all lovy douby.
The truth is that no matter whether he lives in your block or 3000 miles away if you disturb or cannot even acknowledge the his form of release then he is always going to get moody and snappy. Some girls are lucky, their guys will let them know but others arent soo lucky, their guys dont communicate and they will never know why their guys always snap. Well this is one of the reasons.
Oh and sex does not count as a release. Because of the emotional aspect you have to deal with, most guys hate stress, correction everyone hate stress. So you nagging up down left right and centre isnt going to help anything. I know as a girl you want to exercise your power as a babe and stand in front of the tv when football is on , or he is palying xbox...Dont because if your guy is anything like me, he would snap, turn it around, make you realise how selfish you are( plus he would have a list of examples when you have been selfish in the past).
Let me also explain the xbox thing..Pro evo soccer( the game, that every guy plays) is a bonding thing for guys, it isnt just a game. It is your pride that is on the line, it about ego rubbing. Who can brag the most and back it up with action.
When you put 5 guys in one room and you expect them to bond, they are not going to do it over a cup of tea or painted finger nails..
If they are not doing it over pro evo then there is only one thing they could be talking about..and that is girls that they have probably slept with or planning to sleep with and i doubt you want your guy talking about that. So let him play his Pro evo or xbox.
13 comments:
I just thought i'd leave a very colorful post..
lol
meeeeeeeee 1st yay!!!
lol...the pro evo mehn...kai..
on the analysis of me...i think ive been leaving too much info and ur inquisitive mind hmmmm .....no comment.
Ur not on the right track tho! Naming Obvious place...sheesh...u can do better!
As for ur offer...thats not for us not discuss via blogger...ahn ahn!
I personally prefer Fifa to pro, not that I can play.But still, I managed to whoop one guys ass by randomly tapping buttons..the joys of randomity (is that even a word?)
Anywayy back to the post. Any guy that is misbehaving/playing around deserves 2 get caught jo.
yeah, I agree, unvented negative emotions can have nasty consequences on a relationship. Venting is necessary by all means even if it is done through pro evo! I mean its not as if he is going to play all day anyway.
I sooooo agree on dat football thingy,try to stand in front of a chelsea match and u shall hear d whole list of all the times he allowed u watch all d series and naija movies on TV!!u dont wanna know!lol
i concur its better to just say u were in the girls place...........
some platonic relationships stay platonic but it takes a lot of control except if the other person is ugly as hell cos the fact u r best friends means u gel and its so easy to fall into bed with a person u gel with....
on another note..tintin boy!!!
i'm falling
i cannot explain it!!!
i think about u all the time!!!
je t'aime trops! mon amour!
xoxo
now to read that post!
lol!!
So you are saying tell the truth ior tell a complete lie?hmm interesting... i dont know for you o!! We might need to take you to night vigil- i dont see why you want to put someone through that... honesty is the best policy! i lose a lot of respect for guys from what i have heard and so i dont have a lot of male 9ja friends!- it really is not about the wastemen o!- I was raised the hovis way...
I still pray that God will show me the light in the darknes of all this promiscuity and liezzzz!!This is why i have never commited- you have hit nail upon head once again- congrass
Preach on bro!
hey
hmmm..some home truths u have just preached jare!!!
yes i know,we guys and our "macho" power.....lol at girls standing in fornt of the TV.....
hw r u?
PS:i have updated o...
Ur analysis aint bad. Especially on the stress outlet points.
Hmmm very well said.
how comes i'm just findn out abt ur blog.. *sigh*
will be bk for defoz
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